Isolation – Being, Feeling and Combating
Isolation – Being, Feeling and Combating during COVID_19
by Anne Devlin (MA Psyhe, HDip Psyche, BA (Hons) Psychol)
The words ‘Isolation’ and ‘Lock Down’ tend to conjure up very bleak and unwelcome images. The idea that I might be completely separated from other people could have a hugely negative impact on my mental well-being. While being separate from people is part of daily life and from an existential viewpoint brings some comfort, the idea of ‘isolation’ as a barrier against the dreaded COVID-19 brings it to another level.
Having to ‘Socially Isolate’ for the good of the nation is easy to accept on a logical plane however the reality requires a deeper level of processing to help bring life back to balance. I have had to ‘reframe’ and challenge my own thought process in relation to ‘Social Isolation’ in order to find some inner calm. I would like to believe that sharing this with you might also bring you calm too.
Being isolated and feeling isolated
I have decided to differentiate between two aspects of isolation i.e. being isolated and feeling isolated. Why do I make this distinction? Because the former puts my whole person in a position of isolation; myself and isolation are one in the same. The latter however allows me to witness the isolation and gain some objectivity. Am I actually (being) isolated? or am I feeling isolated?
Bringing some separateness between the idea of being and feeling allows me the space to act and to reduce my feelings of isolation. I may not be able to go outside and meet with people, but I can still connect with people and feel less isolated. You may think I am splitting hairs but noticing that I am feeling isolated gives me some control and allows me to put in place those things that might make me feel less isolated and more connected to others.
I have written down some of the things I will do to help me mange those feelings and help me feel less isolated:
- Writing letters to family – back to the old ways
- I will buy and send postcards
- I will set up a Zoom/Skype account and arrange to connect with friends. Maybe my female friends one month and my male friends the next
- I will set a challenge for myself to join a book club online
- I will do a day in the life video of myself and send it to my family and ask them to do the same
- I will pick up the phone and speak to someone I haven’t spoken to for a while
- I will text my family and friends to check in
- If things get too much, I can arrange to speak to a professional online
- I will have support lines on my fridge if I need to speak to someone about how I am feeling
- I will allow myself to view things from an existential stance and challenge myself to manage the feelings of angst that come with the realisation that I am truly alone. Knowing that there is a point no matter how close I am to others there is always a fine line of separation.
“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” Viktor Frankl
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